The excitement of achievement begins to die the moment it is shared. Redistributing the energy, even with those who love you the most, immediately and inevitably kills some of the beauty that can only be harnessed and recognized by a selfish owner.
It’s only as selfish as it is constructive. Effective mentalities are products of trained minds. Practicing restraint by winning in silence is the most important exercise for developing a healthy system of thoughts and emotions, followed closely by the opposite: losing in silence.
Sometimes it’s useful to think of your overall mentality when it comes to achieving goals as a horizontal line that you’d like to ride. When we experience a victory our natural inclination is to allow violent, unbridled spikes in emotion; likewise, we might quickly find ourselves in a nosedive when things fall apart.
Maintaining complete control over our emotions – staying as close as possible to that line in both victory and defeat – is the sign of a strong and healthy mindset. Mental exercises, just like physical, require time, concentration, and intense discipline. The goal of perfecting a mind is rarely, if ever, fully realized, but that shouldn’t stop us from trying.
The alternative is exhausting and, when it comes to accomplishing goals, often figuratively fatal. Riding the emotional roller coaster of your mind, with twists and turns largely dictated by factors beyond your control, will shake you with such force that you’ll eventually crash or be thrown off completely.
In balance we find peace and continued success.